A relationship is built with difficulty but it can shatter in a blink of an eye. Sometimes it seems as if people deliberately break up. After signing the sacred marriage contract, when two people and two families tie a knot of acceptance, love and responsibility, there’s a short span of time when everything looks perfect and it seems as if their love is eternal and he bond unbreakable. But sadly this doesn’t last long and very soon starts the blame game.
The wife thinks husband has changed; the husband thinks wife is getting bossy, mother in law starts playing her cards. The expectation versus reality game begins, the couple start hating each other and families stop seeing each other. The dove of love takes form of a horrific beast.
Very often this battle ends up in divorces, turning people into zombies and homes into deserted places. The remnants of guilt, mental turmoil and loneliness cause permanent scarring of the hearts. Amidst the battle of love and hate, ego and pride, the ones who actually are at the maximum loss are the kids.
The separation of parents, state of utter confusion and despair, loss or trust renders these delicate beings emotionally scarred for life. Many a times this trauma takes a toll on their mental health turning them into bipolar sadistic personalities who look for prey to victimize with their drive to cause pain.
They burn with vengeance. Such persons in turn face hard time building relationships. They often become cheaters, treacherous and unable to commit to a relationship. Unable to love their parents, they blame them for all their failures. This is yet another dilemma of present age.DISCLAIMER: The articles and views posted on this blog are the opinions of individual authors only and as such may not reflect the opinions of Pious Couple staff, editors and readers. They are solely meant for educational purposes and not any illegal purpose. The authors/shuyookh are not responsible or liable for the intentional, reckless, or negligent actions of any individual. Any person who posts, quotes, cites, copies or otherwise relies on any article or comment associated in any way with Pious Couple blog bears sole responsibility for his or her actions, choices and words. While constructive criticism and meaningful discussions are welcome; abusive comments, name calling or intolerance towards other religions, race, sex, countries, etc., will not be entertained. Pious Couple reserves all rights to delete/edit any type of comment or discussion that is inappropriate Islamically, morally or otherwise.
13 thoughts on “THINK OF YOUR KIDS BEFORE SIGNING THOSE PAPERS”
My husband came here and got his citizenship that was his main goal. He goes out and tell people things about me that are not true. He always care about his family back home but not for my kids and me. We were separated for 6 months but he came back. I let him in because of the kids. Now he got his papers and he creates problems everyday blaming all on me so he can leave. Again I am thinking of my kids who loves him dearly. May Allah give me sabar.
Why are muslim guys so hard on their spouse they were suppose to be our protector but i feel thy usually break us more .muslim women arenot znd shouldnot be taken as prisoners. Are they?
I am 33 i cant merried because whenever i want to merry i dont see my kids secure in my society where a wife mean a maid to her inlaws. I dont think here i can raise my kids a better person !
The problem we live, we stay with unfaithful person, I am sure if husband is the righteous one he won’t do all of those harm things to wives. What we have to do just let them do what ever they want as unbeliever and we keep in faith, keep trust in Allah, trust Allah Allah will help us to pass His Exam.
I don’t know what to do about my married life.He abuses me infront of servants and other people and loses his temper very quickly. Now I am living separately and kids are with me.He is asking for forgiveness but he always abuses me when I go back.This is the third time that I have moved out and this time I don’t plan to go back as this is harming the kids a lot.
Everybodies situations are different. Sometimes being in an abusive home scars a child more than being in a broken one. I grew up in an abusive home and I think we wouldve been better off if my parents divorced when we were younger.
May Allah help you
Love ur write up.But am thinking of separating from my husband.av moved to canada with my kids now and i dont wish to go back to him unless he changes.he even said i can go if i want.most hurtful thing he said was that there is no value i added to his life.everyday he comes back frm work he must have something hurtful he says to me being away frm him now,,my heart is at peace .
I m going to take divorce very soon. I have tried every single thing to stop my divorce but i really can’t do it bcoz my husband love his parents soo much n he is not interested in living with me so he is staying abroad far from me. My life is all ruined he don’t understand my side neither he cares abt his child. Very soon m gonna end it all.
I m going to take divorce very soon. I have tried every single thing to stop my divorce but i really can’t do it bcoz my husband love his parents soo much n he is not interested in living with me so he is staying abroad far from me. My life is all ruined he don’t understand my side neither he cares abt his child. Very soon m gonna end it all. Please pray may allah give him salahiyat
still somethings are left, and we can try that
we can’t say, we have tried all the ways to save marriage life
May Allah help you
I did every single thing I could to stop my divorce but I failed. Whenever I see my son and take him out with me I want to cry my heart out. Once he wanted to stay longer with me but I told him that if he stays longer beyond the prescribed time with me police will come and put his helpless father in Jail. If suicide was not a sin I would have committed suicide long time ago.
Don’t worry, Allah is watching everything
May Allah help you