Maintaining a Healthy Family
A Healthy family and relationships, it important to discuss about the character traits that are essential in a human being to be a good father, mother, sister, brother, husband, wife or an in-law.
The beauty of relationship lies in understanding each other, sacrifice, being kind and just, correcting the wrong one politely, standing with the right person; regardless of any personal inclination or favoritism and never hitting the other person’s dignity unjustly.
A great demise of a loving family comes when there is lack of privacy. The story making evil ones not only create drama, but humiliate and weaken themselves as well. A person cannot achieve respect and nobility from a society if he/she claims to possess bad terms with every single member of their family, bad mouth them and play politics, forgetting all their sacrifices and the good they did to him.
They are a gift of Allah
It’s true that nature has not given us the authority to choose our parents or siblings, but still, they are a gift of Allah. We spend lot of years with them, grow up with them and are aware of their nature, so, most of the times it’s not an issue when a problem arises. But suppose there is a misunderstanding, the better way is; try to understand the situation of the other person and be forgiving instead of being judgmental.
As far as the future spouse and in-laws are concerned, one should be very careful in choosing a person and should also not forget the fact that analyzing the nature of their parents is as important as the future spouse’s, because humans are born with a nature to obey their parents..
Intention of “Growing”,“Dividing”, “Outsiders”
Once you or your family chooses someone, it should be with the intention of “growing” a family, not “dividing” and destroying them. The thing that people forget most often is that they are not “outsiders”.
One should try to understand each other’s nature, be as forgiving and kind as one is with their own family.
A single person of bad traits is enough to destroy the whole family. That’s why there is a proper system introduced by Allah that, every family has a head.
Abdullah ibn Umar (R.A) reported that Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) said,
“Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.”
(Ṣaḥiḥ al-Bukhari 6719, Ṣaḥiḥ Muslim 1829)
If the head of the family possesses all the mentioned qualities, he can raise and gather the family in an excellent way regardless of some fuss makers. But if the head is not so wise, the family is likely to be shattered.
So, a strong, wise head, who possess full authority over the household is very important to nurture a healthy, loving family.
About The Author:
Stoori Khan is a Doctor of Pharmacy graduate who has a deep interest and passion for literature, religion and intellectual writings. Her first Islamic poetry book “Be Like A Shining Star” was published in 2015 and her second prose and poetry book “Love Is Pure” was published in 2016. You can find her writings at:
May Allah SWT bless all Muslim brothers and sisters with happiness in their family life!
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