IF YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS SUFFERING FROM YOUR HUSBAND’S DWINDLING LOVE AND YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE YOU ARE LACKING THEN HERE IS ONE OF THE PROBLEMS DISCUSSED WHICH WILL SURELY AID AND PROVE TO BE A STEP PUT FORTH IN ATTAINING YOUR RELATION’S PEACE BACK.
ARE YOU THE WIFE WHOSE HUSBAND ARRIVED AND YOU WERE STILL BUSY SOMEWHERE ELSE?
Whenever it’s time of your husband’s arrival at home mostly from offices or work places you should get yourself unoccupied prior to that from any of your work. In other words try to complete each and every task before he steps into the house or at least give it a break to receive him. Never let it happen that he arrived and you are still busy in doing your own work and yet not giving him the attention he deserves for.
Be the one who is devoted to the relation in terms of giving love and attention and yet you will receive it in return as for sure what so ever you will sow shall you reap. So, take some moments out of your precious time and receive him with your lively smile and warm heart, greet him with honeyed words and make him feel that you are really glad to have him around and then you will only see all his tiredness evaporating, his worries vanishing and ultimately the commencement of filling his heart with nothing but joy.
HAZRAT MUFTI MUHAMMAD TAQI USMANI SAID:
“I myself have not seen this Hadith anywhere but I have read it in Hazrat Thanvi Qudas Ullah sirah’s oration and he had quoted it many times in his speeches that if a man entered into his home and he looked at his wife with love and his wife looked back at him with love in return then they both will be rewarded to have a blessed sight of Allah (swt)”
Therefore husband and wife relation is not limited to this fleeting world but it could be a path that can lead to the way of paradise too.
If you are neglecting him at that very moment when he needs someone who could make him feel free and worry less after a tiring day then what good is that work you are doing or what good is that food you are cooking for him or your family. Most of the women give excuses of being busy, looking after their children, cooking etc so they don’t get enough time to freshen up and welcome their husbands so here is the question for them that what good is that relation if you are unable to understand your partner’s needs and requirements. Just consider for a while that if you are neglected at that very moment when you need him due to his work then how would it be like and what would you feel then?
Don’t wait for that moment
So don’t wait for the moment to come when he will start getting frustrate due to the disregard. Be there for him even if he does not demand by words that he really wants you to be there for him. Some are expressive so they will let you know at some point but some are don’t and that’s where the problem starts.
If you are very busy and you can’t do much, just receive him with a vibrant smile, present him a glass of plain water but with love and care and spend the next few moments with him. Now this one glass of plain water alone without addition of any other thing will act as a tonic or some magical fluid that would be enough to melt his heart and even will help bringing in back the lost energy. Try it once before you disapprove this advice.
ARE YOU THE WIFE WHO RECEIVES HER HUSBAND AND STARTS COMPLAINING?
Now that is the paramount. Try to avoid telling him any bad news, complaining about children quarrels and problems, giving him any telephonic message or any such thing that will only be elevating his tiredness at that very moment unless it is not so urgent. Instead, let him freshen up and rest a bit first and then tell him time to time only the things that actually hold some importance.
Likewise dress up your kids and teach them how to welcome their father and how to behave when he is at home. Above all you need to develop some patience and gratitude in yourself as well and refrain from complaining all the time for example about not having a very luxurious life that someone else have or demanding him something which is out of his reach, about your kids quarrels etc. Give him the care he deserves and he will love you more.
I wish wives could understand it and clearly analyze it if they are lacking somewhat here and as a matter of fact I do believe minor amendments in their practice and attitude can aid a lot in attaining their husband’s diminishing love and reducing his frustration to achieve a peaceful relation.