Marriage – The Right Choice
The selection of a life partner is indeed a serious matter that should not be taken lightly. A better selection will lead to a blessed marriage, in which the rights of both are fulfilled and will ensure that the home will be managed properly. It has been seen that marriages are most successful when the rules and regulations laid down by Islam are faithfully obeyed and properly applied. Children, raised in such marriages, usually turn out to be true believers and good Muslims. They have sound judgment and a high level of modesty, ethics, and morals; because in such marriages, Islamic teachings are practiced when it comes to up bringing the children.
The Messenger of Allah, Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa’Sallam), advised those who intend to marry, to select a religious partner. A partner, who has a correct and true understanding of Islam, whose actions and conduct are in conformity with Quran and Sunnah. Instead of setting a yardstick of beauty, prestige or wealth, Islam sets religion and piety as the criterion.
Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) said,
“When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him.” (At-Tirmidhi, hadith: 1085)
The proposals of religious males are often rejected, because selection is made on worldly basis. Apparent standards of wealth, looks and social standing are mainly considered when a suitable match is sought. There is no harm in choosing a partner with these traits. However, it should be borne in mind that in the absence of a good religious background and piety, worldly advantages have no worth.
A Muslim woman who understands the teachings of her religion has wise and strong basis, when it comes to choosing a husband. She does not concern herself just with good looks, high status, a luxurious lifestyle or any of the other things that usually attract women. She takes into account his level of religious commitment, spirituality and humility, because these are the pillars of a successful marriage, and the best features of a husband.
A life partner must be from family who is devout and inclined to practice Islam. Since this will play an influential role in the couple’s future lives.
Nothing is worst for a religious woman of high Islamic values and standards, than to fall into wedlock of a free-thinking, irreligious husband, who is not concerned about religious duties and practices.
In same way, nothing is worst for a religious minded male, than to choose a life partner who has a poor understanding of Islam and has little or no regard for it’s teaching. It is most improbable that a woman who lacks the basic Islamic knowledge and has no piety, become a good wife or
The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said,
“Indeed the woman is married for her religion, her wealth, and her beauty, so take the one with religion, and may your hands be dusty.” (At-Tirmidhi, 1086)
A woman should choose a man who is attractive to her in all aspects, one who will gain her admiration and respect. In order to achieve this great goal of strengthening the marriage bond and establishing a stable life, it is essential to choose a partner with good Akhlaaq (character) in the first place.
O ALLAH! Bless us with spouse of with piety and righteousness. And may YOU make every marriage to be that beautiful institution as ordained by YOU and taught by YOUR Beloved Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), AMEEN!
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