Keep Your Loved Ones Away from Workplace Aggression

 

Considering the subsequent situations, it is natural that one may feel dis-hearted;

• In a field or organization, a decision is not taken as per your suggestion
• Your subordinates do not obey you
• Being employee your salary is not raised
• Perks and benefits being canceled due to a mistake

But tell honestly, is it not unjust and cowardliness that you are unable to convey your point to the respective people and instead;

• Throw their anger on innocent and helpless servant, when you came home
• Become harsh on minute mistakes of your family members
• Point out flaws in the food
• Gets irritated when child comes to you
• Start fighting pointlessly, that why you cook this gravy with that vegetable
• Start screaming when toddler rushes to you, that why is he clinging to me as I came back
• If the door does not open on first bell, you start knocking the door so hard that not only the wife leave her task and rushes to the door but your neighbors also get worried that God forbidden, what trouble you are in!

If you have courage and confidence than why not you show it to your management (for whom you work as employee) or to your sub-ordinates (who work under you). Therefore;

• Develop self-confidence, be courageous and have strength
• Increase your patience, and practice it while fighting with your Nafss (Inner-self)

Advise yourself, that O Nafss! I will not let you;

• Oppress anyone
• Will not harm anyone with my harsh words, in spite of having the right to show anger. Instead of being annoyed, I will suppress the anger and get Allah’s love and will forgive people
• I will not be a barbarian for people around, especially my powerless wife and children, (who consider me their world), instead I will be compassionate and commanding (which is as required by Shariah (Islamic Law))

O Nafss! Making me behave furious, you not only descend me in front of Allah, but also reduce the value of my words, because then, on a genuine instance, family would not pay a heed to my warning and would say that he is just in a habit of scolding purposelessly.

It’s essential result will be that;

• Worries of office or shop will not end but harmony of home will be destroyed
• Being irritated by your regular rebuke, if wife starts to answer you back, then home will be converted into a battlefield
• If children are sensible, then in such circumstances, they will blame you; considering their mother as victim, and will oppose you and support their mother
• If a son favors you and use foul language with the mother, then not only he adds sin to his account but also this will create a situation of partisan and a combat zone, in which some children are mother’s supporters and other are of father’s. In such state of affairs you would not be able to pay attention to your office or shop.

So, there you see, your small negligence or erroneous strategy demolishes the tranquility of home and office (or shop). Therefore, it is a wiser choice not to spill anger on your family that is caused because of some outsider. Appraise everyone with their worth and treat them accordingly.

May Allah give you and us all, wisdom, discernment and make our lives pleasant. An easy way is that man should mould himself to the cast of obedience of Allah and Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon Him) and

offer his five time prayer in congregation in a way that;

• He reaches the mosque before Adhan/Azan (Call for Prayer)
• Offer Salat al-Nafl (Optional prayers) and recite Quran as per the occasion
• Have long Dua (invocation) after Namaz (prayer)

If above is not possible then at least he should try to reach mosque as the Azan is called, and not indulge himself in any other task after Azan. In Sha Allah (If Allah wills), after a short period of this practice, you will feel a clear difference in your attitude; anger, stress and worries all will vanish.

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