2 main factors of Husband Wife relationship
The relationship between Husband and Wife depends upon two prestige.
- The first one is its delicacy
- its intensity or how strong it is.
If you look in to the delicateness of this relation, you will see that no other relation is as delicate as this relationship that exist between husband and wife.
The delicacy of the relationship is similar to the way petals are arranged in a flower or the web of which could be destroyed within seconds despite spending thousand years of relation together. Even if there is a little argument among the couple that could led to a fight and the husband without even bothering for a moment, fire the three bitter words of reality “divorce” ending the entire story of relationship.
The relation that was built for spending the entire life together was ended within seconds. All the selflessness, emotions and services that were being rendered by the wife are being wasted and now nothing is left except for remorse with regards to the ultimate action.
FEW BASIC ADVISES FOR A MARRIED WOMEN
Think before speaking
Nothing could bring backs to what it was before. Once you have fired a bullet from the pistol, it cannot be undone. Similarly, the fire that lead to divorcing your wife is being done now, how it is possible now to undo your actions? One side the children are worried, the other side wife is worried and the third side husband himself is worried, but now what can be done?
Think before giving divorce
You should have considered this earlier before divorcing your wife recklessly that what my actions would lead my whole family. Perhaps you might have thought that we are being bonded for such a long time, we are being married for many years now and our relationship is very strong and maybe divorcing does not affect them and due to this assumption you must have ignored the way you have divorced your wife.
Istaghfaar – The Cardinal Supplication
Divorce would affect
However, it’s not about having strong relationship but depend upon the delicacy of the relationship that’s still there even after spending so much time together. Therefore, divorce would affect in the same manner as if it would have affected in the beginning years after marriage. The only difference is that if you have divorced your wife in the beginning then your children would have not have suffered with you and worried at all from the destruction caused by the divorce.
Do Not Throw One’s Anger on Others
Your children will suffer
But now, your children are also part of this mess. In fact, they are being the most disturbed from this mishap because now they have to choose between father and mother and its impossible for them to leave either of their parent. According to a person:
“There is double torment for the beloved one.”
However, the way a hundred-year-old man turns into Muslim only after reciting the “Kalma”. In the similar manner divorcing your wife by firing the words through your mouth, no matter how many years you have spent together, does not remain your wife but instead turns into a stranger for you.
Deepness of relation
On the other hand, if you look into the deepness or bonding of the relation you would see that no other relation is as strong as this relation. The way your wife do you bidding no other can do it with this much devotion.
The more time you spent with your wife together the more attachment and fellowship is developed among you two and the more likely she will be doing your bidding with more love and care which in turn makes the relation even stronger. Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Sahab Thanvi Rehmat Allah Ala during one of his sermon said,
“Once a spoke person complained to Maulana Fazl-Ur-Rehman Sahib Ganj Murad Abadi Rehmat Allah Ala that Sir, now I don’t enjoy during the sermon sessions.” He replied, “Didn’t you never heard that an old wife turns into a mother?”
Unique example
Subhan Allah! What a unique example he has given. In the similar manner love is being rooted in the veins. The longer the time spent together, the more likely it would reduce the spirits but on the other hand attraction is increased.
Talking about conversion of an old wife into mother made me recall one of the old time moral based stories. There was man in India who was extremely rich. During his old age, his wife dies. The ruler of the area come to mourn for his wife and said,
“Agha Sahib! I am really depressed that your wife is no more.” The rich man started crying and said,” Brother, she was not my wife, she was my mother who used to give me food and used to do my bidding.”
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